I chose this photo as the last simply because it is so beautiful and if you want to take one thing from me then I would like that to be that you tell your parents how special they are.
I've had some conversations lately which made me ponder as to our roles as a son/daughter and how the world seemed to generally agree on the subject matter of "filial piety". In this current state of "busy-ness" that societies seem to be going through, values that were once steadfastedly held so dear are now facing challenging times ahead. It seems so simple as to how we should reciprocate the loving kindness of our parents. Though they never expected anything in return from their child but it’s the child’s responsibility to reciprocate the love and care we unashamedly obtained from our parents. We need to understand the basic expectations of our parents without being told .We need to understand that our parents never expected a return of all they did for their children; but if they ever did, would have been most probably only three things expected from their children,
1 Time
2 Time
3.Time.
Yes my dear friend, this is the only expectation of an old parent . Do you know whose story is this? Yes its the story of your parents , my parents and every parent all across the globe. I betcha financial assistance came into the minds of many of us when asked the question?! Time is the only thing our parents want from us, and now its up to us to decide if we are capable of showing our love by fulfilling these three expectations of our parents in return of all our wishes which they had been fulfilling since our birth . I am sure most of you reading this piece will be ready with an answer that this is the only thing we don’t have; as we are very busy.
I myself have to plan. I don't have the perfect end. It is just time for focus what's most important in life; time to meet the current needs of my priorities in life in as best a way I could possibly achieve to ensure the continued wellbeing of my surviving parent.
For everything is impermanent, nothing is fixed, forever and forever, it is not fixed; the earth is always shifting, the light is always flashing, the sea does not cease to grind the shore. Generations do not cease to be born, and neither does death cease to happen. We are responsible to them because we are the only witnesses to their legacy. The tides subside, the light bulb fails, amorous lovers cling to each other, and both the young and old cling to us. The moment we cease to hold each other, the tide engulfs us and the light is forever gone. Life is indeed short and precious and time does tick away so fast. Take this time to do those things you want and to retouch the lives of those dearest to you.
# Mom (left) and Mrs. Ng at the recent Empress Wu play at KLPAC
"Walk on a trail of loving kindness
Walk on a path of compassion
And all else around you will be beautiful."
Every Blessing
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224sulzatiMy dear friend Thank you for a beautiful piece on filial piety. Being a parent myself I would say that we love nothing More than time to bond with our children BUT in today's society, both the Hubs & myself DO understand that Time is a precious commodity & something that, sometimes, children DO NOT have much control of. The working life of our children these days ARE totally different from the time when we, ourselves, were working, NOT forgetting also when our own parents were working. Yes, we do work hard then But NOT at the pace that ppl these days face. These days it is a dog eat dog world out there & ppl of this generation have to work Much harder as competition is, simply, too stiff. Thus we do empathise with the situation & when Time permits that we do meet with the children; be it weekly, monthly, whatever, WE make it an occasion of deep merriment. Should the occasion arise when our children needs us, you can lay a bet that we would be at their door step in a heart beat & vice versa and as I always say, we would give an arm & a leg if need be & we are parents till the day we are no longer around. One thing for sure, we know the LOVE that we have for our children are reciprocated by our children a zillion times. Lastly, kudos to your belated & beloved Dad & your amazing Mum for raising you & your siblings to become amazing children yourself & I love seeing the Total respect you have for your beloved mum. God bless.
Sometimes we need to be selfish, but oft times when we think back, how much time do we have with our parents in their twilight years... It is a challenging juggling act, but difficult as it is... we must strive for a balance. I totally can related to what you are trying to say.
yes, it's very important for us to spend some time with our parents if they are still alive. As for me, I only hv my mum and I will see her as much as possible..
True. People come and people go - just love them all we can while they are still around and be thankful when it is time for them to leave and go forth to a far better place than this...
Important and well done reminder. Thank you.
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Ant, my parents, especially my mum, never imposed on the children to spend time with them as they knew each one of us would be so preoccupied with our own careers. Even when my mum was ill and I took a month off from work just to look after her, my mum would keep on chasing me to return to work instead!
But my mum-in-law was the opposite - she wants everyone to return home for dinner EVERYDAY!
It sure isn't easy. Life is so challenging with all the different expectations!
Ophelia, I guess most parents would understand how work life stresses their children nowadays. I feel where there's a will, there's a way. That is what weekends are for. For those who are separated by distance, parents are reachable via just a phone call. All that is needed is a lil effort. I'm glad that your children are filial and know their responsibility as children. :)
William, i totally agree with you that it is a juggling act between personal time and time for our elder beloveds. You're doing really well :)
Wenn, yes, time seems to tick faster these days since we are caught up with so many things in life. It's a worthwhile effort to apportion some time for the elders whenever possible, and I'm glad you do so :)
STP, yes we ought to cherish every moment available that we could as they would certainly treasure the times when they are cared for :)
Cloudia, thank you so much for droppingby, your first i think :) In these days of busy-ness, it is getting more crucial for us to remind ourselves of those precious bonding times that are so crucial to the wellbeing of all. :)
Ilene, your mom was a wonderful soul. Utmost concern for the wellbeing of her children must have been the tops in her list of priorities. That being said, I'm sure that you would also have known that she would have treasured those final moments you had spent with her despite her subtle objections. :)
MIL syndrome huh?! Well, I'm sure you are doing your best to accommodate her wishes and also being glad to see how your hubby is filial. :)
Both my parents were no longer here and would admit have not spent the very best time with them. Would encourage Mango to cherish her parents while they are around and not to regret later in life.
Love the pixz of the baby's feet enveloped by the hands
Bananaz, yes this pic is so wonderful to look at. Btw, who is Mango please?
Mango is Bananaz's better half..she is Chinese educated and yellow skin thus people called mango..haha
Definitely NEVER too late for anything! let's all start now.. !
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