Be A Lighthouse

Sending out my usual weekly Monday morning smses yesterday, I noticed the usual array of responses from the recipients to my greetings. Whilst some returned positive replies (ie "you're as cheerful as always, i'll be too"), which was wonderful; however I did find myself shaking my head in disbelief that there are some who seemed to return the same negative responses week after week.


Impossible to ignore negativity, but it doesn’t mean you have to dwell upon it. It can really wear a spirit down if you constantly look for the bad in things and forget that there is good, too. And the funny thing is – when you look for uglyness you find it, like the muddy waters. The same thing when you look for beauty, you discover that the water gave life to that plant that produces beautiful lotuses that is a real treat to the eyes for anyone who sees them.

Most times we have the option to choose between viewing the positive and negative in our daily lives. In reality, most people tend to look at the negative aspects in life. I have met lots of people who are extremely negative. One not-too-recent encounter is a negative person who decided that taking anti-depressants was the ideal way to go. A remedy is to make them understand the simplicity in the power of positive thinking and how it can impact themselves and their surroundings.

The best way to demonstrate to power of positive is to be an example to others. You would be surprised at how many people, even people who come across as negative are learning from your example of being. We have the opportunity to subtly point out the results of someones positive thinking or the results of negative thinking. Over time people will begin to get it and if they have the desire for a different reality, they will make the changes they need to make to live a more positive oriented life.

I reminisce all the times where I used to be negative, angry and bitter about all the pain and suffering people endured in this world – but it didn’t lead me to make any positive change – I was merely jaded and irritable. Now that I “attempt” to be love, peace, compassion (still far from succeeding, if you're wondering lol) I still may not make any noticeable change but I know I’m not making things worse for anyone (or myself!).

We are not adding to the negative and even though sometimes we feel as though we are not adding to the positive, we are not making matters worse. Trust me, you are adding to the positive, you are bringing your light to the world.

We must be careful what we focus on for what we focus on we attract. If we are focused on weakness then we attract weakness, if we are focused on scarcity then we attract more scarcity. We must focus on what we desire and be "Pro" this or that instead of "Anti" this or that.

Looking for the love, compassion, patience, kindness, joy and gentleness is the absolute best gift we can bring to people around us, many whom we love and want to see happy. Being negative is so easy, nothing ardous at all. It is always easier to find what is bad and point out the wrongs, than to build on what is good and powerful.

Let us always wear rose-coloured glasses.

We see what’s happening around us in the world, but I don’t choose to muddle in it. We ought to work to offer positive change, however little the effort could be and make life worth living, although the realities of life has us to experience sadness, loss and betrayal of love. We simply cannot stop loving and sharing those pieces of us that are authentic, being the loving beings that we are.

I'm actually tired of hearing criticism about those who choose to examine the negative to such a point that I find myself shying away from negative people these days. There is a vast difference between examining and acknowledging the negative, to dwelling on it and becoming cynical and jaded. We ought not fail to see that both the positive and negative offer lessons and seem to co-mingle. For example, compassion and love can arise out of a negative event, many times in more profound and significant ways than from positive events. It seems to me that festering in the negative is simply denial and shining light on it can result in incredible transformation. False optimism and empty affirmations do not promote peace nor love.

When someone told me, “Why can’t we do that too, other people are also throwing the rubbish on the floor?” Or “Everyone else is using the handphone without a hands-free when they are driving.” Yes, I agree with him/her that other people are doing it already. So we might as well follow them and throw our box of social responsibilities into the next available drain? On the contrary, we can stop what other people are doing, but we can definitely choose not to follow in their ways, but mend our minds to take them as lessons. I have always believe in what Gandhi said that “We must be the change we want to see in the world.” And hopefully in the process, we can inspire other people to be loving, kind and compassionate to others.

Let us strive to make a positive difference from today onwards.

Be a shining lighthouse of goodness. I wish you well.







"Walk on a trail of loving kindness
Walk on a path of compassion
And all else around you will be beautiful."
Every Blessing