Words Better Left Unsaid

How many times have you heard a person say something like “I don’t mean to be direct, but..... ” Or “I don’t want to hurt your feelings but …” or they just blurt out whatever thought is running through their mind without regard to how it is going to affect the people around them. Some people wear this trait proudly, saying something like “I am very honest and I always say what is on my mind, if other people can’t handle that, it is their problem, not mine”.

I admit that this is amongst one of my biggest flaws.

We all have thoughts waft through our mind at times which if spoken would not be kind. We may not think the outfit that someone is wearing is very attractive or we may find the smell of someone’s breath offensive. In our relationships, whatever form it is in, there are often times where we have a knee-jerk reaction to what the other person is doing or saying or how they may look, and it is at these times that if we blurt out our initial thoughts we create a divide in the relationship, we create a problem where there was no problem. I feel it is very important to remember the above quote and leave the unkind word unsaid, the impact of what we are about to say, even if it was more meant to be an entertaning joke or the motivation was purely to set the records right and to attempt to offer help. In our relationships it is ever so critical to remember that our initial reaction to something done or said is not always the correct reaction. What we often perceived to be for their best interests may not necessarily be so. Often times we need to take time to listen, to consider the why’s of what is being done or said and why we are reacting the way we are. Our thoughts when conveyed into words should always be with purpose, a positive purpose, never just blurted out without a thought process behind them.

It is too easy to be unkind with our words. Once unkind words are said, they are impossible to take back, they have been heard by the other person and permanently registered in their grey matter. It’s kind of like the judge telling the jury to disregard what the lawyer said. Nice thing to say, however once it’s been said the desired or undesired impact has already taken place and often within a matter of seconds. We can attempt to take back what we said or try to recover in some way from what we said, however the damage has already been done and all we can do, is work to repair the damage.

Our thoughts, words and actions are very powerful, they convey a great deal of energy and have a ripple effect throughout the universe. While we are learning to control our thoughts and have our thoughts be pure and full of love, we may have unkind thoughts which enter our mind, do not resist these thoughts, allow them to linger for a while but not long enough to do damage, and then allow them to leave.

Remember what we resist, persists. The key is to not speak these thoughts, however much we think it is correct and serves to tell the truth. We do have mastery over what we speak.


We have all been on the knifesharp receiving end of words which have impacted us. We know what if feels like and how we recall these words for a lifetime. I have an elephant-mind, I almost never forget harsh incidents.

Please allow me to offer a sincere apology to any of you to whom I may have offended. A clean slate is hard to achieve, but hopefully, an apology enough to proffer a kind end from where the relationship was abruptly halted. 

 To err is human ..... to forgive, divine.

May kindness always begin with you and may the ripple that you cast upon the pond of the universe be one of kindness, peace and love!




"Walk on a trail of loving kindness
Walk on a path of compassion
And all else around you will be beautiful."
Every Blessing