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A blogger friend recently asked me why I seemed to unusually remain rather emotionally subdued during the blog-war I was dragged into earlier this year. That question actually drifted in and out of my mind during the weekend, bearing in mind my fiestiness that would have cause the whole affair to have overblown into a torrid hate-war should the situation have happened during my earlier years.
Does it hold true that our temper is more subdued as we grow older, or because experience has taught us to care less and avoid hurtful extremities that so many people choose to engage in their lives, more so these days?
Battle is conflict. We incur stress, and we incur physical, emotional and spiritual injury. Wishy-washy emotions take over and create mindless chaos. We have moments when we feel have won a battle which are often followed by long periods of times where we feel we have lost or giving up and succumbing to that which we feel is the enemy. When we do give in or give up we then go through bouts of anger, frustration, and guilt. We may even label ourselves as weak and unworthy or as a loser. We may feel as though we become a prisoner of war in our self-created mindprison that we cannot find a way to escape the side of duality which we believe is the enemy.
Many people get caught up in duality and the belief that life is a battle between ego and spirit, light and dark, good and bad. What if I were to say to you that the battles of duality are simply something that we conjure up and that it is not necessary to be in a war between dualities? If we were to cease battling against our ego, cease battling for the power position in a relationship, how would that change our lives? How much less stress would be removed if we did not view ourselves being in some sort of cosmic battle always?
I believe I did the proper thing to have not succumbed to the dastardly actions of thoe warmongers. It's also very mind-draining to engage with people who perpetually wallow in hate. I was amazed at the peace that I found when I realized and accepted that the battles that we fight are a creation of our making. Consider the battles that we engage in presently, may we be battling our weight, or battling depression, cancer, our significant other or maybe we feel that we are a pawn in the battle between heaven and hell.
Remembering my spiritual Guru's advise that it is better that we should retreat in times of conflict and to just defend our fort that is our mind. To push forward is to hurt all parties involved which doesn't augur well in our spiritual path.
Even when we feel that we have won a battle we don’t feel satisfied for very long. Like a mercenary we often become addicted to the stress and stench of war and we crave to engage in yet another war, even though we intrinsically know that to war is to cause harm to ourselves in the long run..
It is difficult when we are in the midst of that which we deem a negative experience; to accept that it is happening for a reason not yet visible to us, yet it almost always is. Matter of fact we may never know the reason in this life time, the reason may not be revealed until the next leg of our journey that lies beyond this physical form. I've always termed this feeble body of mine; the temporary capsule that retains my soul to serve a higher purpose before my next spiritual journey.
Life does not have to be all war. When we accept that all things happen for a reason we then do not engage in a battle of what is.
We accept, we listen, we watch and we learn.
We cannot be living a life of unconditional love and at the same time be in battle. It is when we try to do both that we find ourselves on a self destructive path. The path is lined with misery, guilt, depression, etc.
We can choose today to lay down the weapons of the battles that we are engaging in and approach everything instead with love and trust that the love that is our authentic being will rise to surface. It is not an easy task, but with constant practise, I believe we would only dwell more on the positive side.
Quoting His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, "It is better to engage in having concern for others. If you practice sincerely and with persistence, little by little, step by step you will gradually reorder your habits and attitudes so as to think less about your own narrow concerns and more about others' – and thereby find peace and happiness yourself."
May we find a way to dismiss our battles and allow the light which is to radiate and provide warmth of love to our loved-ones and for when we do, I truly believe we will attract more light onto our lives thus creating a powerful effect which has less room for battles.
"Walk on a trail of loving kindness
Walk on a path of compassion
And all else around you will be beautiful."
Every Blessing
15 comments:
Having been bullied/harassed out of a job since May, I find it hard to just sit quietly and be subdued without taking on a fight for justice.
Yes, it does cause a lot of stress, tears and heartaches but if I look at this logically, I feel blessed to be out of an 'unhappy' working environment.
To fight for justice causes stress but not to fight for justice causes more stress, anger and the person and management who created the bullying and harassment will walk away once again like they have done a few times before.
Hopefully, my fight will bring a better working environment to my colleagues though I will end up being jobless and very unemployable.
Ok, sorry about the 'ting kar ching' comment.
From your karching. :)
I like battling my coursemates... Life is less boring in uni that way...
Hope your indifferences are settled by now.. :)
C-Wise, sad to hear what you went through. My Guru was wise to say that we need to retreat, but must hold our fort. Total retreat is unwise if their attck is relentless.
Brave, that's a minor thingy ;)
Reana, thanks. There's nothing to be settled actually, coz I've totally cut them off. No more pain, just a good lesson to take heed that there are such people around, and to leave it to more qualified people who are able to handle their viciousness. I've moved on....... ^-^
well written. but more often than not, at the instant the war broke out, we let anger and frustrations consumed us, not knowing and judging what the consequences would be. supposing it's better to just keep quiet and let it die down a bit? like you said, i think those anger and evil plans did somewhat died off. what did i say again?
With Obi Wan in the picture, you're really Master Yoda!
I also no idea what the blog war is abt.
i prefer peace than war.
Medie, thanks. I suppose it's only human to have those initial fiery emotions. Hopefully, most of us would then quickly realize that anger is an all-consuming emotion and always clouds our ability to rationalize a situation.
William, still, much better than being labelled "Jabba The Hut"! lolz
Chris, better not to know. Unfortunate that your name was also mentioned in their blog. The liars know nothing more but hate.
Wenn, I'm sure any sane person would. ;)
I personally think there will be no war nor battles if everyone learned to be content and forgiving!:)
Have a wonderful weekend!
Alice, that'll be the day whereby the Bodhisattvas and Saints have deemed their work done! ;)
Have a wonderful weekend too. ^_^
+Ant+
In cultivating the spiritual path, I find I can tolerate many things that I was not able to when I was younger and ignorant to the truth. This is such a well written post and really touches the essense of learning to find peace in oneself.
Two wrong doings will never make it right. Wise decision.
Rose, so true. I pity he person who coined the phrase "ignorance is bliss".
Yamuna, GOSH! misssed you for such a long time. Real glad to have you back. Yep, 2 wrongs just doubles the negative effect.
Life is too short to remain angry, hence... ignoring is a better choice. LOL!
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