Friday, September 4, 2009

Always a Busy Bee?



How busy are you? When greeting peeps and asking how they are doing they often express how busy their life is. As a matter of fact many peeps whom I speak with tell me that their days are so busy that they often feel overwhelmed, like how the situations my 2 dear blogger friends KeenYee and Twilight are currently faced with. Most of us do live in a busy world and lead busy lives. As a society we have become so accustomed to being busy that many of us don't know what to do with ourselves when we do find times in our life when we are not busy bees.

When we find ourselves in a situation where we have the opportunity to not be "busy" whether that be by choice or is forced upon us by life circumstances we may find ourselves feeling anxious or guilty because we are not busy doing something. The irony of this is that when we are busy and running around all day like a crazy wuzzy person, we often lament about how wonderful it would be to have some downtime where we could actually relax; yet when we do get that downtime, quite often we do not know how to enjoy it. Often times we fill our downtime with so much “busy” stuff that we look forward to going back to are work a day routine because we feel as though we need a vacation from our vacation!

It is amazing isn't it that even when we have down time in our life that we are often compelled to fill that time up with more "busy"! It really is utter madness when you think about it.

When is the last time that you were able to sit still for more than a few minutes where you didn't feel that you had to fill that time up with something? Where you didn't feel anxious about doing nothing, where your mind was not flooded with guilt as a list of all of the things that need to be done scrolled through your thoughts? I'm guilty of doing that especially on those supposedly "relaxed" times at those Curve or Pavillion cafes enjoying my usual black gold con panna fixes.

Let's face it, there is never going to be enough physical time to accomplish all the things on your lives "to do" list. We need to first accept that as a fact. We must then allow ourselves to be able to put aside some time to do "nothing" and most importantly we must give ourselves permission to do nothing and do nothing without guilt. What does doing nothing entail? Doing nothing, could be just sitting and watching the world go by, sitting on the lawns of KLCC's park or some other parks, tilting back your head, close your eyes and take in the warmth of the sun or the sensation of a cool after-rain breeze. It could be as simple as allowing yourself to hear the sounds of nature on a quiet evening. Doing nothing could be simply gazing into a lovers eyes and getting lost in their soul. Gosh, how i'm  missin' that.

The times when I am doing nothing are some of the most wonderful moments of my journey, often times when I am doing nothing I discover wonderful things about myself and the universe in which we live. For me, these moments of nothingness are moments of great discovery and channels of creativity. I find that in the moments of nothingness that I often without effort, without any force resolve issues that are happening in my life or experience incredible sparks of creativity.

But often, I felt that peeps use the term "I'm busy" to either project how important they are or just a lame excuse to get out from a possible non-beneficial situation. I generally noted that many peeps fill their lives with "busy" because they are simply not comfortable with themselves and the busy is a way to avoid facing that which they are not comfortable with. Being in moments of nothingness for peeps who are using being busy to avoid their self or to avoid their relationships with others or to avoid something internal can be very anxious times. As in any other aspect of tuning into our authentic self we must be willing to work through that which at first may feel uncomfortable for we must often work through that which is uncomfortable to come out on the other side where great self discoveries reside.

Remember that beyond that which you fear you may discover about yourself is a glorious and joyful authentic self which is pure love which originates from source. Trust in yourself and work through that which may feel uncomfortable for the rewards are truly beyond that which you could imagine.

Take time today or the coming weekend for periods of nothingness. Embrace nothingness! I know I will ..... as the weekend approaches. ^_^

"Doing nothing is better than being busy doing nothing" – Lao Tzu





"Walk on a trail of loving kindness
Walk on a path of compassion
And all else around you will be beautiful."
XOXO

21 comments:

Pranny said...

Always keep myself busy with those clicking stuffs and dota and blog....

So most of the time, I'm occupied..

So when people wanna talk to me, I'll tell them I'm busy...

Heh compare my busy and ur busy.. Mine is like nothing right...~~~

C'est la vie said...

It's just not that easy to let go everything outta my mind and relax, when the commitments involve others, and it is my responsibility to accomplish what I have to. :(

Twilight Man said...

I heard my name!...

I love this line "Doing nothing is better than being busy doing nothing".... It made me reflect myself a while and I think I am damn busy doing everything.

Luckily we know how to meditate and float a bit :)

Twilight Man said...

This Jerry is always busy clicking online porns and comparing organs. LMAO

Anonymous said...

hmmm... i supposed for some ppl, the busy-ness actually catalyze the great discovery during the nothing-ness.
wish u have an enlightening weekend ahead kekeee... :)

William said...

I shall endeavour to embrace the Tao of Lao Tzu!

Danny said...

i dun mean to be sarcastic but i think i'm a workaholic.. cos i dun really like holidays.. when i was in school or working...:)
just feel more productive if i do something.. but of cos i do complain a lot when i'm busy la.. lol

Medie007 said...

... and feel all so restless?? nah... i don't think i could... i have itchy hands and itchy butt. can't sit still and do nothing if u know what i mean. :P

Pluboy2 said...

have u ever been so busy that 24 hours just passed by without you doing anything?

TZ said...

hmmm... you know my answer to your question eh~... I'm the one that have time to sit @ Curve and Pavilion cafe sipping my coffee. I wanna a busy life ... give me a busy life with a job. :p

^^WiLLY LaM^^ said...

that's why i need vacation once every two months LOL

KY said...

Finally...I feel good that I have time to read your blog, especially with my name on it..haha.
Worked till 5am last night, and now finally have sometime for myself to relax and do my own stuff...aka reading all the blogs.
Have a good weekend..

manglish said...

so true so true...:) i can just lie down, do nothing and enjoy whatever my mind is doing in an auto pilot mode hhehhehhe.....:) i love it but people said i am lazy leh

A Common Singaporean said...

By reading your blog, I have given myself some downtime. How's that for a suggestion? Blog more!!!! (I know I suck at this too judging at the amt of posts on my blog :P)

But hey, the irony is so true. Itchy backside lah, everyone of us have.

Anonymous said...

hmmm i have to be occupied with something, cant be just staring at the wall:D if got time on wkends, i would catch up with my novels and do a little bit of gardening... its my form of relaxation:) but nothing beat sitting on the sands on a quiet beach (with novel at hand:)

Gratitude said...

Jerry ~ gosh! twilight juz exposed your routine lolz. Wot have u got to explain to defend yourself now? lolz

Freedom ~ so does everyone else. I think 5 mins to yourself seems a pretty achievable task. Go on, spoil yourself a lil hor! ^^

Twilight ~ I'm really glad you managed to take some time off to pamper wifey and yourself in Phuket.

Gratitude said...

Happy ~ wow, good view. Thanks :) have a good week too .

William ~ i loved the quote too. ^^

Danny ~ i like your st8forward confessions lolz

Medie ~ mind elaborating on your itchiness? :P lolz

Gratitude said...

Takashi ~ I dun think so..... coz my work has me to keep on going being productive. My "relaxed" weekends are often used to brainstorm on upcoming work. sei lor!

TZ ~ you seem to be busier than me lor. :P lolz

Willy ~ lucky for you. I'm chained to my office desk :(

KeenYee ~ i know you are ok, since we were in contact yesterday liao :) Rest more ya.

Manglish ~ Pepps are actually envious of us when they see that we are able to relax and chill. ^^

Common ~ hope you do not scratch till it sores lolz! I think the best downtime for you is to sit watching lil Angel asleep. It's a luxury I'm not able to hv now. ^_^

3Quarks ~ I'd hate staring at the wall. I'd rather be staring at the sky or some greenery, or some nice curves instead hehe :)

Johnny Ong said...

city life is a bit more complex compared to small towns

Perky said...

I think I'm on the extreme in this situation... when I'm busy, I'm like super busy sampai can lose track of days.

But when I'm free, I practically relish in doing absolutely nothing :)

Gratitude said...

Johnny ~ hey , thanks for your 1st visit here. Yup, agree with you. Itend to take short breaks away from the city too.

Perky ~ It's a good balance then, to be able to hv good breaks to replenish drained energy. ^_^